More to Lose, Even More to Gain: What I Left Behind to Build a Life That Fits

Lately, it’s felt like life hasn’t just been busy, it’s been relentless. There’s been something coming from every angle. Some days it’s hard conversations. Other days, it’s logistics, decisions, emotions that hit out of nowhere. At times, it’s all of them at once.

But underneath the pressure, something real has been settling in: I’m not breaking down. I’m not falling apart. I’m realigning.

This season has asked me to look at everything clearly; where I live, who I trust, how I spend my time, how I’m treated, what I let into my space. And the clarity is undeniable. I’ve spent years trying to exist in places that didn’t support my well-being. Where I had to be the strong one, the quiet one, the obedient one, the easy one. Where being “fine” became a survival tactic.

I’m not doing that anymore.

What’s happening right now isn’t chaos. It’s clarity. The kind that doesn’t wait for permission. It shows you what’s no longer aligned and dares you to choose what’s right for you.

And the truth is, I had a lot to lose. But I walked away because I knew I had even more to gain. I couldn’t access that in the environment I was in.

Physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, I’m stepping into a version of life that finally feels like mine. One built with care, boundaries, softness, and clarity.

This isn’t about pushing through. It’s about listening. About giving myself permission to stop pouring into what only took from me. To stop maintaining the kind of peace that came entirely at my expense. And I’m finally strong enough to choose my peace. Because the more I build my brand, the more I come back to myself.

In the past, I burned out trying to force alignment. I chased careers that asked me to quiet what came naturally. But I’m at my best when I can nurture, support, and pour into others. And while I lead with generosity, reciprocity matters. That’s the difference now.

My clients aren’t transactions. They’re people. People who come in and, just for a moment, pour back into themselves. People who know what it feels like to carry too much and crave a space where they don’t have to. There’s a shared understanding in those appointments. A quiet recognition that sometimes, we all just want to be held. Not fixed. Not rushed. Just held, inside something calm, caring, and sacred.

That’s what I’m building. That’s what Ryane Ashley is.

Not just facials or sugaring or skincare. A sanctuary. A space where clarity and care meet. A space that reflects not only my skill, but my becoming. It’s where I bring everything I’ve learned and let it live out loud.

I’m not interested in performing resilience. I’m creating space for what actually supports me. That’s the only thing I want to hold right now. What’s real, what’s aligned, what’s mine.

I’m not rushing in. I’m showing up for myself.

And that’s more than enough. I’m excited to welcome those who would like to join me.